Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Body image. Why be so damn hard on yourself?


Every day is a challenge when it comes to my personal insecurities. The little guy above really says it all for me! Ha. Well, I often find myself looking in the mirror...and often wincing. I am one of the millions of young men and women who are insecure. My insecurities have to do with mainly my personal body image. This insecurity is truly a fracking emotional roller coaster that, just like many others, face constantly. But slowly, I am coming to conclusions that are truly helping with my self-esteem. So, YEAH...I see fat on my body! But hey, I have fat, and I have excess fat at that. But, that does not effect my personal character and moral. Remind yourself to not judge yourself. Being a plus-sized girl in a 0-2 world causes extreme stress and for me, a lot of shame. In fact, even those at a normal, healthy weight, bare the same cross. Yet, from now on, I choose not to accept these feelings of inaptitude any longer. Its eating away at me. Why do this to yourself? You do not deserve the pain. Instead of focusing so much on "weight," why not focus on personal growth and physical health? Change your mental outlook! Focus on "self help." Now you may be wondering, "what are the initial small steps I can take to make this change?" Or, maybe you're thinking, "Jesus that sounds dumb. I'm ugly, etc etc..." Well, I say just stop fracking thinking that way. It is no way to live. Don't bring yourself down, find inspiration and motivation. Its everywhere.


Take a moment to think about media. Media and propaganda control the population. Its absolutely insane. The Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that the typical American spends about half their amount of free time in front of the TV. A staggering statistic indeed, and I have to admit, I am a participant.  I admit, I feel as though I always have Netflix on, even if I just have it in the background. Actors, actresses, models...they uphold the standard of beauty. But how dare they let themselves DEFINE IT. You are beautiful, it is society that is ugly. Media tells us that a small waist and a brazilian wax is everything. I beg to fracking differ my friend. At the end of the day, a small waist does not support you. A small waist does not mean life will be perfect. A small waits does not define you. Nor, does a plus size waist. Its your character. Your character is what defines you. I know it sounds so cliche talking about "inner beauty." For some its like, "Yeah thats nice. But i'm still fat." Well, stop that nonsense. We perpetuate the stereotypes we despise. We perpetuate what the the media tells us. We bring ourselves down, and others...all because of our insecurities that have been engraved into us since birth. Boys and girl grow up with television, magazines, advertisements, porn, and so forth. 

My boyfriend and I had a talk the other day about why men are so focused on the "ideal" female form. He remarked...

"It was what I was raised to like. Blonde, thin, and large breasts was what was advertised as "beautiful." Naturally, through my adolescence  that is what I sought. That was what I was told was "sexy," therefore, that is what I was looking for. Through the years, I learned otherwise. I don't believe in the perfect body. I believe in beauty. Individual beauty."


My boyfriend is exactly right. Through our upbringing, we see beauty in a certain, very taunting yet appealing light. It is our curiosity  our lust, and drive for perfection that spark our obsession with our image, body weight, and personality traits..When honestly, I believe being an individual and following your own path, heart, sense of style, personal beliefs, and so forth...are what make us the most beautiful. 


Xo, Thanks for reading.




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